The Journey BeginsThe Journey has begun indeed.
I hope you had a great weekend. Before fullfilling a promised I made, I truly serious about knowing how many of you were able to do some of the excersices I suggested you try, since it was a religious holyday you get a “go card.” I’ll come back to this next week.
As a reminder it was about not saying anything negative and paying a fine of 25 cents each time you did. The other, was how would you define as being successful yourself. In the stillness of the night I was thinking that from the moment we are born – we are being shown and told how things are, you don’t even get a chance to pick your own name, nor choose where you will be born or who your parents will be. That is carried forth in your life until it becomes your reality. Then you say, this is me, this how I believe, I can’t do this, I can’t do that.
If this behaviors are imposed by fear, they will lead to a troubled life. If they were taught in love you will obtain happiness.
As you live other experiences, that can well enhance your personality or damage it, you must have the necessary courage to break away that was instilled in you by fear and/or brings pain to your life.
Perhaps an examle of this will help. I had an extremely strict, militant father. He would have been a great general.
At a very young age I remember saying to myself, “When I grow up, I will be tolerant, I will listen to what others say, I will not be judgmental.” I did not want to be anything like him in any way shape or form. I was literally petrified of him.
Surely he thought he was doing the best for us by teaching us good values, manners, respect and social behaviors, the problem was it was done using fear.
In retrospect my mother was the opposite. My mother showed patience, tolerance and love, that helped. So, that made me very interested in human behavior at a vey young age.
Just inagine people that have had an undesirable upbringing or perhaps (I would call it ) being “Dragged up,” how challenging it must be to achieve a fullfilling and meaningfull life.
It can be done! Absolutely and I’m proud to say I’m one of them. The understanding of what I shared took all the guilt away, which children tend to think all that happens “is my fault.” In life we will face many challenges, however if we at least have an idea that the behavior may be “hereditary” our response may be different.
That is why I always say – Before you get into a serious relationship – observe how the behavior is with the rest of the family – you can multiply by 1,000 undesirable behaviors presently and that is how it will go. A bad relationship can mark you for the rest of your life and you know what, we have one life, let’s make it count. Live each day as if it be your last. It does not at all matter how old you are, life can change at a blink of an eye.
I have lived a good life, and a very emotional, challenging life, it pays to adjust one’s thoughts as required by the situation. To be the eternal none judgmental person you can be, to be aware of the power of the words (you can NOT take them back, no more than you can take time back.) the power of kindness, of love, of gratefullness and among others forgiveness.) We have got to learn to say NO to ourselves and to others is situations violate your believes .
As I aforementioned before, we cannot change the weather, the color of the sky, weather it rains or snows, we can only change ourselves.
With our behavior we can make this a better world, starting with your own. It’s giving that we achieve the great reward of happiness.
You want to see how how are actions affect others. In the morning to all you see for the first time that day (including your pets ) give them a smile , a sincere one, please. I’d be glad to see your comments.
We’ll all benefit from the experiment. Go ahead Smile!!!!
No I have not forgotten the Harvard result I’ll give you the Baskin Robbins taste, the millennial generation in an overwhelming majority prefers “being famous.” Followed by being “rich. No comments from me, but I would love to learn yours.
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Keep happy and smiling