Spring is finally making its entrance and things are so beautifully painted in bright colors.
The birds are so happy. I have a nest on my deck, every spring the birds come to the same place. Last year a baby fell, my dog Missy picked it up and laid it at my feet, she did not hurt her. She was fine and flying in a few days. Incredible, my heart swelled. We can learn so much from animals. Missy is 72 lbs. Yes, she is a rescue.
I was unable to follow up on our conversation since chaos set in, but having “the tools” I’m dealing with the situation. Two computers down, locked, no clue why or how.
I’m wondering how many took time out to try not to say anything negative for at least 24 hours?
That’s a very revealing exercise it is worth trying. It shows us how we sabotage ourselves with negative thoughts. Imagine how the internal monologue goes.
I wonder, right now, are you worried about something? Something perhaps that has not it even happened. So you really can’t do anything about it.
What makes more important is that it may not even happen, so why worry about it? Why weave a web in your head about something that is not even real?
This is where that exercise would have indicated to you it is all a fabrication in your head. A negative thought that YOU chose to give it power. Let it go!
Don’t have anything that you could be enjoying at this time? No? Call your family, a friend, read a book, give yourself a “spa” moment, play with your dog, do something like meditating or do self-betterment exercises. This moment is all you have. You well know that the past can’t be changed, the future is uncertain.
Life is so sadly fragile, live today. Make it a choice to enjoy every moment of the day, try it, it is doable.
Self-control does take effort, practice, determination and the resistance to change unless you are an avid learner.
I may add that the resistance to change diminishes when you see that there are many alternatives that can work for you and lead you to a path of happiness. Not because you are financially solvent, not because you got your dream car (and now have a loan to pay), not because Mr. Handsome asked you for a date. NO, only because it is your choice.
Happiness is your choice, no one else’s.
To make those healthy choices you must learn to control your thoughts you must exercise self-control.
Thoughts will determine your character, your future, they will lead you in the path of happiness is you use them in a positive manner NO matter what the apparent circumstances may be.
Remember plant good seeds, they give good fruit. What goes around comes back to you. I cannot overemphasize this.
Make every word, every action count in a good way. What I’m sharing is nothing new, it’s just that sometimes we forget, so we have to take time to take care of “me.”
Don’t allow yourself to play the “when” game. Everything will be ok “when” I get a new job, “when” we get married, and on and on.
Don’t create co-dependent relationships. Where you depend emotionally on that other person to be happy or make decisions that you want to make.
Remember time nor words can ever be taken back. Our time on earth is unknown, you have but one life, make it worthwhile.
There is and there will never be anyone like you. Make it count. It does not mean being selfish, oh no by far, for it is in giving that we experience true joy.
When I was in grammar school my teacher told us “Make a friend every day, learn a new word every day, make someone smile every day and do a good deed every day.” I never forgot those words and practice them as part of my daily routine. God bless Mr. Strauss for that lesson.
If you see a need, step up to the plate. Don’t do things for others expecting retribution. If you have nothing pleasant to say, stay quiet. Words are terribly powerful. One word can start a war, can save someone, can bring joy, tears, hope to someone. Don’t be opinionated. In other words, if you have nothing pleasant to say, don’ say anything. Don’t talk bad about other people. Remember, there is nothing in this world that is absolutely secret.
Don’t lie. Don’t snap at people, don’t yell and don’t judge.
You have enough things to handle to have peace in your life, you need to work on your life to be happy and protect that happiness.
That happiness will radiate through your eyes, your body language, your attitude and their lives will be enriched and they will probably ask themselves, “what an incredible person” Or “There is something different about her now.”
Yes, that glow will be there because you chose happiness.
This is an endless work in process. Change your thought pattern and change your life and everyone around you will also be happier. It’s your choice and it is FREE.
I will admit that this is not for everyone, and although their lives are full of pain, they are explosive, with bad blood, frustration, they live a tumultuous life, abusive relationships, seeing no end to their misery they will resist admitting things can change, and it is their choice to do something about it.
Most people will run away from the truth, of the reality of their lives or are in a comfort zone and are “happy” being unhappy.
I apologize for my delay in coming back to you. It was out of my control.
If you wish to have some of the personal itemized ways we as women sabotage ourselves and how we can break with that behavioral pattern go ahead and drop me a note along with the contact sheet.
Please share with anyone you feel would benefit from the aforementioned information and wish to live a happy balanced life.
Be happy and let’s master the power of our thoughts.
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